Our Approach to Marriage Counseling and Couple Therapy
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED COUPLE THERAPY (EFT)
EFT is a unique, short-term therapy (8-20 sessions) developed by Dr. Susan Johnson and Lee Greenberg in the 1980s. This is a highly successful method for relationship counseling or couple therapy. It is based on attachment theory which emphasizes the importance of secure relationships, where partners are not afraid to reach for one another in their moments of need. More than twenty-five years of research indicates that through EFT, on average, 7 out of 10 couples are able to repair their relationship. This success rate is more than double that of any other form of couple therapy.
With EFT, unhappy partners learn to repair their relationship by emotionally reconnecting and restoring the safe, loving contact that builds trust.
How can EFT help you?
“Our brains are wired to see emotional isolation as dangerous and send a panic signal when we cannot get a loved one to respond. If we can’t reconnect, we either shut down or get demanding. Both of these strategies can backfire and push our lover away.” Dr. Susan Johnson
My couple therapy is based on the research which suggests that we are all hard-wired for emotional attachment. When couples lose closeness and can no longer turn to their partner to help them meet their needs, they can experience high levels of distress, leading them to either distance themselves from their partner or become demanding of their partner.
With EFT you will experience emotional interactions with your partner that serve as corrective bonding experiences; and this will break the repetitive negative patterns that block intimacy and safe, secure connection. With EFT, I first help couples to be aware of the role they play in their negative cycle, and of the underlying emotions that fuel this cycle. Next, I show couples how to recreate a more secure bond, by teaching them emotional responsiveness, which is turning towards one another in moments of need, rather than disconnecting.
With EFT I help couples understand the emotional reasons for their disconnection, and I introduce them to the strategies for recreating safe and secure attachments. ( https://iceeft.com)
Gottman Therapy wasdeveloped by Drs. John and Julie Gottman.
Gottman therapy Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals.
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)
This couple therapy approach aims to teach couples to reconnect with their body-mind to create safety and connection in relationships. As we promote personal healing, our capacity for presence and compassion deepens.
Prepare / Enrich
This approach is comprised of a customized couple assessment completed online that identifies a couple’s strength and growth areas. It is one of the most widely used programs for premarital counseling and premarital education. It is also used for marriage counseling, marriage enrichment, and dating couples considering engagement.
Our Approach to Individual Therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy ( ACT) which is a unique research-based psychological intervention that uses acceptance and mindfulness strategies, together with core values based commitment and behavior change strategies, to increase psychological flexibility. Psychological flexibility means contacting the present moment fully and taking committed action in the service of chosen values. ACT is comprised of a behavioral intervention to help people learn strategies to live life more in the present, more focused on important values and goals, and less focused on painful thoughts, feelings and experiences. ( https://contextualscience.org)
Eye Movement and Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy ( EMDR ) is an integrative psychotherapy approach that has been extensively researched and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. EMDR is also used in treating panic attacks, complicated grief, dissociative disorders, disturbing memories, pain disorders, performance anxiety, trauma-related to sexual and/or physical abuse, and body dysmorphic disorders. (www.emdria.org)
Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Its main goals are to teach people how to live in the moment, cope healthily with stress, regulate emotions, and improve relationships with others.
Internal Family Systems( IFS) focuses on healing the wounded parts of Self and restoring mental balance and harmony by changing the dynamics that create discord among the subparts and the Self.