Counseling for Grief
Grief and bereavement are a natural, yet excruciating, part of life. Losing a loved one is never easy whether you knew that their days were numbered or whether it came as a complete shock. Nobody is ever fully prepared to say goodbye to the people they care about, even if it’s what to be expected of the ephemerality of life and our existence in it. You may feel irritable, angry, frustrated, or numb, and detached. Perhaps you blame yourself for what happened, and you fear for a future that no longer includes your loved one.
You can’t sleep, you can’t concentrate, you can’t find a reason to get out of bed in the morning. You find no excitement in the things you used to enjoy. Every day feels bland and tasteless and you’re not sure how long you can go on like this. Your world has come to a halting stop yet everybody around you is living their lives unaffected. You feel guilty for not adapting “quickly” enough, for not accepting the terms on which they left. You feel contempt for the rules of life and the natural order of things. No matter how many condolences you are offered, no words will ever justify the necessity of what you are going through.
When Professional Grief Counseling is Helpful
Bereavement is the process of recovering from the death of a loved one, while grief is a reaction to any form of loss. Both comprise a wide range of emotions. The intensity of your grief can vary. Contrary to popular belief, the stages of grief are not linear. They’re not a journey you have to take to get from denial to acceptance. You will find that these emotions come and go, often when you least expect them. There is no set timeframe or “conventional” way of grieving either. While people respond to loss differently, it’s important that you seek help if these feelings persist for a long time.
You may feel like you have lost your way. You may be holding onto your sadness because you feel it’s the only link you have to the person you lost. You may be afflicted with doubt and fear, struggling in your relationships, or even feeling disconnected from who you are. The mere thought of visualizing new possibilities for your life is a challenge. You feel something broken in you, something that is beyond repair. We recognize that for anyone in this position, being seen, heard, and understood seems like a rarity. But something as simple as picking up your phone and seeking support can help you navigate the turmoil of emotions you are feeling, and most importantly, it will help you feel less alone and isolated.
Common Symptoms of Grief
- Avoiding people or places that remind you of the person you lost
- Behaving in ways that are not normal for you
- Detachment and withdrawal from social interactions
- Feelings of deep sadness and depression
- Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
- Fixation on the absurdity of life
- Frequent nightmares
- Increased irritability and anger
- Lack of self-care
- Loss of appetite
- Loss of identity
- Outsiders expressing concern for you
- Panic attacks
- Problems sleeping
- Self-isolation from social contact
- Trouble believing that your loved one is gone
- Trouble completing basic tasks
- Uncontrollable crying
- Unexplained illnesses like headaches or stomachaches
- Visiting familiar places hoping to find your loved one
If you feel that you’re going through some of these symptoms, you may want to get in contact with one of our therapists. Remember, you do not have to grieve alone!
Benefits of Grief Counseling
if your feelings of loss and grief are preventing you from engaging in day-to-day activities, then you should immediately seek professional help. Grief counseling can help you:
- Come to terms with your loss
- Find comfort in fond memories without the crushing sense of loss and hopelessness
- Target the areas in your life where coping is challenging
- Establish strategies to help you deal with your feelings and re-engage in daily activities
- Learn about the stages of grief and realize that the emotions you are experiencing are normal
- Work through your bereavement in a safe environment
What We Can Do For You
In the aftermath of losing a person you love and deeply care about, therapists and counselors can help you process everything you’re going through in a healthy manner. With individual grief counseling, you get to spend one-on-one time with a professional that can guide you through this trying period. You can expect your therapist to help you navigate such an immensely challenging time all while watching for any signs that could lead to grief turning into something much more detrimental.
Your counselor can also provide you with tremendous tools and healthy coping mechanisms to get you through this harrowing journey. You stand to gain the reassurance that all stages of grief are completely normal, even the ones that don’t make sense to you. Just having an unbiased person to talk to can be really beneficial in dealing with these complicated feelings as well.
Deciding to see a therapist is not always easy. It takes a lot of courage to make this decision. This is why we have developed a safe space for you to freely express yourself without fear of judgment. Regardless of the specific challenges, you’re facing, your counselor can help you see all the opportunities you have within your current circumstances.
This will allow you to move into a different way of being. While you can’t recover the way your life was before, you can learn to appreciate this new one for what it is. With a rejuvenated sense of possibility, peace, and freedom, you can rediscover your joie de vivre and replace those feelings of hurt, sadness, and grief, with fond memories of the person you lost.
At Deep Connections Counseling, our therapists trained and experienced in helping people who struggle with loss and grief. We will help you find your strength and move through the trauma at your own pace. While words and conversations, no matter how thoughtful, cannot completely heal your pain, you can still find hope in the darkness. Therapy is a crucial part of bereavement and you deserve to get the support you need. Please contact us today for a free consultation.