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Are you seeking for a Gottman certified therapist? This is a unique approach to couple’s therapy that aims to build stronger connections and healthier interactions. Learn how a Gottman certified therapist in North Carolina can help you navigate your relationship hurdles with ease.

If you’ve ever searched for relationship therapy options, you’ve probably come across Gottman therapy.  It classifies relationship conflicts as either resolvable or perpetual, with perpetual conflicts being those that persist in the relationship.

Here, you’ll delve deeper into this relationship-saving therapy and uncover the benefits it can bring to your relationship.

What Is the Gottman Therapy Method?

Gottman therapy was developed by Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman. It is a research-based intervention method. And it aims to strengthen your relationships.

According to the Gottman Institute, the goal is to:

  • disarm conflicting verbal communication
  • increase intimacy, respect, and affection
  • remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy
  • and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship


How Can a Gottman Certified Therapist Help My Relationship?

Gottman certified therapists use what is known as the Sound Relationship House theory.

Every relationship has seven “floors.” And trust and commitment are the load-bearing walls of the house.

These floors are:

  • Building love maps
  • Sharing fondness and admiration
  • Turning towards, not away
  • Finding a positive perspective
  • Managing conflict
  • Making life dreams come true
  • Creating shared meaning

Every floor represents an opportunity for couples to grow together. And to mature their relationship. Meanwhile, trust and commitment keep the house safe and secure.

Here are some benefits of Gottman couples therapy.

1. Unique

Every relationship is unique. And no story is a repeat. So Gottman counseling will help you find the best solutions for your specific relationship.

Other cookie-cutter therapy methods may work for some people. But they do not apply to everyone.

2. Effective

Gottman couples therapy is backed by research that was done on many couples.

The results of Gottman therapy speak for themselves. That’s why this type of therapy is one of the most popular.

3. Actionable

Other types of therapy may give you a general theoretical approach. But Gottman certified therapists will equip you with real, actionable steps.

You can use what you learn during the therapy session in everyday life.

What to Expect from a Gottman Certified Therapist

Gottman therapists are an elite group of therapists. They have gone through many levels to get to where they are.

Not only are they certified by the Gottman Institute, they also go through rigorous training with many couples of different backgrounds. They complete at least 1000 hours of postgraduate experience. And they have a Ph.D. or Master’s in the mental health field.

How Gottman Couples Therapy Works

Your first Gottman therapy session will start with an overall assessment. It may be in the form of a questionnaire between the couple and therapist.

This is in order to gauge:

  •  the level of connection,
  • possible issues,
  • or even the possible immediate solutions.

The first meeting establishes a general idea of what the relationship looks like. And it helps identify how the therapist may intervene.

After the general introduction, the therapist will begin by discussing the underlying issues.  And then you will establish the goals of the therapy.

The goals may differ from couple to couple. But frequently the aim is to:

  • Strengthen the friendship of the couple
  • Spark intimacy
  • Go through every “floor” of Gottman therapy
  • Find quick solutions to frequent problems
  • Deepen emotional connections
  • Improve verbal communication


Finding the Right Certified Gottman Therapist in NC for You

North Carolina therapist Cynthia Gaskins is certified in Gottman Therapy. She has the innate gift of making couples in therapy feel safe, supported, and heard. And she helps them feel comfortable talking about their private life.

With her decade of experience, Cynthia understands how to find the most efficient way to tackle your relationship complications.

Schedule an appointment with Cynthia Gaskins now to kick-start your Gottman therapy journey. Invest in your relationship. And you will be rewarded with a richer, deeper connection to your loved one.

Kinga Gudor, PhD

Kinga Gudor, PhD

Kinga is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with more than 15 years of experience. She specializes in couples therapy and working with individuals from a multicultural background.

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